The thing is, if you want to get to know me... I'm here.
Also, if you want to be on this flist really, I will readd you.

I just think it needs to be a give and take. There are a lot of people who are just feeding of people. they friend you just so you comment in TH_EIR journal. And I don't think ti works like that. I want to know the people on my flist and I want them to know me. I just don't think it should work any other way.

Of course I would love to get to know you, very much. And you're absolutely right it should be reciprocal, otherwise there's really no point. One of the most beautiful things about LJ is besides being a place for squee-age and discussion rather than being focused on a specific fandom like a message board it's more focused on a specific person . A unique individual you can get to know better. And in many cases develop a wonderful friendship that transcends a mutual appreciation for a show or actor. I mean in the end after the shows are over and actors um, retire isn't that what makes the whole experience worthwhile? And I'm learning that it can't be done from the sidelines. If it's ok with you, I'd really like to comment more here -as long as you promise to smack me upside the head if I'm bothering you. That way I won't have to worry as much *smacks head*

I'm so unbelievably sorry for this insufferably long comment. I guess I had a lot of stuff to say that had been inside for awhile and I forgot other people would have to scroll past this. If you want me to delete this I will, if you've actually read this far you're the most patient & tolerant person on the planet and bless you!

Oh and one last thing (promise) I would never expect you to comment in *MY* journal. Or feel insulted in any way if you didn't, you're not obligated to even read my journal let alone comment in it. 200 journals is huge and unless you're Clark Kent there's no way you could read and respond to all that and still eat and sleep not mention have that mysterious thing known as a RL. And all the time, energy and work you put into your own journal which we're all so fortunate to benefit from. Personally I'm just so touched someone like you would even consider me worthy of "friend" status. And for someone like me that's so special and more than enough.

I guess the ting is, that lj is in a way a personal space. It is harder to work ll because you get the personality with the content and people are less likely to enter the room of another person. I guess in a way you share a part of yourself. My posts are largely impersonal, but I do have posts that are extremely personal on occasion and I guess I'm paranoid, cos I wanna know who is reading those posts. And I want to get to know the people who do. I know a lot of people don`t agree much, but I cannot not do it. That why I don't like friending icon journals. It doesn't let me know the person, just a product said person is producing.

Noone says you have to participate, but people won't really care much for you if you don't make an effort. Like in real live relationships take work and it sucks... but that is as it is here too.

And just know this... I can only say this for myself, but I think I speek for everyone when I say this. Every comment, every word, every written feedback or whatever, makes me squeee..makes me feel appreciated and warm.

And I don't mind. :)